If you're a new listener to this show, you may not know that my guests on this episode had a profound influence on my spiritual path. I met Marcus Gillette through Genius Network in a Zoom breakout. I knew immediately when he spoke about his wife, Sheila Gillette, the famous psychic medium, that I had to have her on the show, which I did – episode 277. In preparation for that episode, which was in late 2020, I watched a video of Sheila telling her story about asking God to give her a job to do. Fast forward a few months later to January 22nd, 2021, when I prayed to God for a job and was shown an incredible vision of how this illusion called reality actually works. The rest, as they say, is history!

I'm honored to have not only Sheila back, but also have her partner in work and life, Marcus. For over 25 years, Sheila has been the direct voice medium for a collective of 12 Archangels known as THEO. After a divinely guided meeting in 1997, Sheila and Marcus married and began spreading THEO's wisdom together, empowering thousands worldwide. The Gillettes recently published their new book, The Art of Relationship: Discover the Magic of Unconditional Love.

In today's show, Sheila and Marcus share insights on soul contracts, seeing beyond karma to growth opportunities, and embodying unconditional love by releasing limiting beliefs about ourselves. Get ready to be uplifted by the magic that unfolds when two soulmates unite to raise the collective consciousness!

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If you believe kids are our future, then you'll want to listen to this episode in its entirety.

Mary Resenbeck is the author of Take Charge of Your Child's Education, which lays out for parents an individualized, personalized, maverick approach to homeschooling children successfully. Mary is an experienced Montessori classroom teacher, theater instructor, educational manager, and a veteran homeschooling mom of three.

In this episode, we discuss what traditional schooling doesn't teach, to the detriment of our kids. We compare and contrast different forms of alternative education and after-school enrichment. Mary unpacks the dos and don'ts of an effective curriculum. She shares the benefits of immersive learning through historically accurate theater. And so much more.

Mary's a true expert, and you're going to learn a ton about how to inspire and educate your kids – whether or not you want to homeschool them – so they become well-adapted, happy, high-performing adults. And now, on with the show!

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Many of us have been taught that you have to go to a place of worship to speak to God, but my guest today suggests that you can speak to God in the bedroom, or anywhere for that matter.

When you think about it, sacred sexual energy is the energy from which we, as humanity, were conceived. When we connect to that energy, we are at our most creative, and we really are limitless in what we can manifest in our lives at that moment.

Justin Gottlieb is a Miami-based tantric love coach who appeared recently as an expert on the reality show Jersey Shore. He supports individuals and couples in healing and awakening in their love and sex lives. In today’s episode, we talk about how tantra can help you be more present in your love life. We touch on spirituality, sex, and intimacy, and how these three things are all connected. And Justin shares what a tantric awakening looks like.

We all deserve to experience abundant love and pleasure in our lives. If you’re curious to find out how, then keep listening. And now, on with the show!

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It’s hard for a recovering perfectionist to appreciate the world as it is without continually idealizing the way it should be–all things being, well, perfect! But the world is not a perfect place, especially not today. So how can we find the mental switches to flip in order to live our best lives and serve a higher purpose, given those challenges?

My guest today, Leah Elias, is someone who personally experienced dramatic difficulties communicating and relating to loved ones, and she felt a bit lost with it all. Around that time, her church offered a class on the Enneagram which opened up a whole new world to Leah. It was through the Enneagram that she not only got herself on a better path but also discovered a gift in helping others. In her coaching practice, Leah helps her clients better understand their inner workings so they can practice better habits and achieve healthier relationships.

In today’s episode, Leah takes us into the fascinating practice of using the Enneagram as a tool to change your mindset, drop habits that are not serving you, and expand your capacity to love. If this sounds at all intriguing–I can tell you–it’s pretty powerful stuff. So without any further ado, on with the show!

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Respect! Consent! These two words are very important but they don't get enough attention in the media or on stages. My guest's mission in life is to end sexual violence. So, he’s been spreading awareness for decades on how we individually can proactively take action regarding this important issue.

Mike Domitrz is an internationally renowned speaker and critically acclaimed author. He is one of the world's leading influencers and thought leaders on respect and consent. Decades before sexual assault cases were on the cover of every major media publication, Mike was being brought in by leading educational institutions, organizations of all sizes, and the U.S. military to help them pursue a new standard of consent and respect.

In this episode, Mike talks about he ended up founding The Center for Respect and focusing on the issue of sexual violence. He shares some important data points on sexual assault and some advice for parents on how to teach their children not to be a victim or perpetrators of sexual violence. He also talks about the concept of respect, asking, boundaries, and consent in a relationship so that both partners will feel safe, secure and protected. Aside from sharing his knowledge and understanding of respect and consent, Mike also talks about public speaking and how to be confident and prepared on stage.

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The human brain is a structure so amazing that a famous scientist once called it, “the most complex thing we have yet discovered in our universe.” My guest today, Janet Doman, has been a pioneer in unlocking what is possible for babies and children with the work she has done as Director of The Institutes for the Achievement of Human Potential since 1980. I’m grateful to be sitting down with Janet today, as I had the privilege of attending her workshop back in April where I learned techniques for significantly increasing my toddler’s intelligence. 

I have a couple quick examples for you. First example: I quickly flip through a bunch of big cards with randomly-placed dots on them while announcing how many dots on each card. This teaches my son the fact of a number like 18 or 26, rather than merely the symbol of it. Next step in this process will be to teach him equations using these cards. Second quick example: I flip through big cards with pictures of various insects, flowers, dinosaurs, and so forth. One category at a time. Very quickly. Always randomized, never in the same order. His brain is like a sponge, taking up all the new information. I have many, many dozens of these cards. Imagine a little toddler being able to name all the trees, flowers, and insects on a walk through the forest. I can’t even come close to doing that. But that’s what’s possible for children. 

In this episode, Janet explains how babies and children learn, that their brains need a combination of stimulation and opportunity, the incredible adaptability of the brain, even in kids with brain injuries. The brain is actually the most fixable organ of the human body, and it grows by use. This is fascinating and immensely practical, especially if you’re a parent or if you at all interact with children. So without any further ado, on with the show! 

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A relationship is like a bank account—you are either making deposits or withdrawals every day depending on your behavior toward one another. My guests today are Dr. John Gottman and his partner in work and life, Dr. Julie Gottman. They are co-founders of the Gottman Institute, where they have been committed to an ongoing program of research and interventions to foster stronger relationships. It has been their mission to make their services accessible to the broadest reach of people across race, religion, class, culture, sexual orientation, and ethnicity.

In today’s episode, we talk about how to bank enough positive currency in your account so that when a withdrawal is made, it doesn’t break the foundation of the relationship. We discuss genetics, histocompatibility, learned helplessness in relationships, and how couples can get into (and also break) unhealthy patterns. We delve into domestic violence, and the Gottman’s discuss their work in that area which rather than handling conflict management goes deeper to teach skills for building intimacy and connection. If you’re wondering how to take your relationship from meh to marvelous and you’re looking for actionable insights and tools, you’re not going to want to miss this episode. So without any further ado, on with the show!

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The aftermath of a couple’s argument, the argument hangover, can linger in the air and eventually become the undoing of a relationship. My guests on today’s episode, Jocelyn and Aaron Freeman wrote the book (literally) on The Argument Hangover, and I’m very happy to have them here to share their wise relationship advice. The Freemans are known as the "couple that coaches couples," and have worked with celebrities, public figures, and thousands of couples around the world. Coming off of a year where many of us have spent some pretty intensive time on lockdown, there has been a whole lot of togetherness. 

In today’s episode, we talk about this hangover concept—how something either significant or possibly kind of insignificant, causes an argument. And then the anger and the hurt snowball until the space between you creates a chasm that, the longer you let it go for, the wider it grows. Jocelyn and Aaron share some powerful strategies you can use to nip this in the bud and make communication and appreciation for each other a priority that you work at every day. Their insight and their energy are really inspiring, so without any further ado, on with the show!

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Relationships are like a dance – it’s always fascinating to take a look at the posturing that we all do, the dancing around subjects, and the way we engage in patterns that can be both enriching and destructive. 

My guest in this episode, Dr. Harriet Lerner is one of our most respected voices in communication, particularly the “how-tos” of navigating the swamps and quicksands of difficult relationships. She is the author of 12 books, including The New York Times bestsellers, The Dance of Anger and The Dance of Fear. It is my pleasure to take a deep dive here with Dr. Lerner, talking about developing self-awareness and listening and talking skills, which are so important to cultivate in any relationship. 

As you’ll hear, Harriet points out that although change is difficult, a small change on the part of one partner to listen to what you don’t want to hear with an open heart and acknowledge the experience and the desire of your partner can make all the difference. So, please give this interview your undivided attention, because it will profoundly impact the lives of the people you love the most.

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My guest today is one of the world-leading experts on narcissism, Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Ramani is a psychologist, professor, author and speaker. Her most recent book, "Don't You Know Who I Am?":
How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility, provides a deep insight on how narcissism is impacting all of us, what it is, and what we can do about it. I think you’ll find this episode highly relevant, as chances are there is, or has been, a narcissist in your life – whether a boss, an employee, a teacher, a significant other—who has caused you trauma. It really is a fascinating area, and we got into what Dr. Durvasula calls the multifaceted stone of narcissism.

Once you get a handle on all the facets, you really understand all the big player themes in the world of mental health. We talked about how much of this disorder is genetic, and how much is born of early trauma. It’s really great to know that arming yourself with education on the subject and learning coping techniques can give you control over the situation. Check out this illuminating and empowering episode.

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