One of the books that I recently read was Iyanla Vanzant's, "Peace from Broken Pieces." It was, hands down, one of the most powerful books that I've ever read. Her exploration of "personal lies" will stick with me forever. Even amidst her greatest success, Iyanla believed that she was unworthy. Because she felt unworthy, she was unable to recognize her success. This foundational mistruth led to much of the fallout that followed, her departure from The Oprah Show, among other things.

"I kept wondering when my time of prosperity would come. I had no idea that I was sitting right in it." -Iyanla Vanzant

Iyanla's story is not my story, but the "personal lie" is a disease that plagues almost every being. It is that internal whisper that causes doubt and tells you that you aren't good enough. This article confronts the concept of the "personal lie" and gives you three ways to just get over it!

what is your personal lie?

For some, this may be easy to ascertain. For others, not so much. The reality is that your "personal lie" may shift according to your life stage, the people in your life, current challenges, or even your financial situation. No matter how it reveals itself, there is one thing to remember...that a "personal lie" is just that, a lie.

a personal lie may tell you...

You aren't worthy

You will never be good enough

You can't succeed

Things wil never get better

don't let that lie get in the way of life

Giving life to these lies will limit your ability to reach your fullest potential. Your free time and mental space will be absorbed by doubt. Living your "personal lie" can also get in the way of maintaining a healthy work/life balance in the following ways:


Living a personal lie hinders productivity because you waste time worried about what the lie says you lack.

Living a personal lie leads to unnecessary stress.

Living a personal lie makes it difficult for us to recognize reality, even a promising one.

There is no such thing as work-life balance when you are living a personal lie because no matter how hard you work, it's never enough because you believe that YOU are never enough!

 

how can you get around it?

Recognize the lie for what it is and don't give it more attention than what it's worth.

Every time you hear your inner lie, refocus on specific situations, that have occurred in your life, that conquer that lie. For example, maybe your lie is telling you that you aren't good enough to start your own business. Think about the other challenges that you've faced in life and how you overcame them.

Make an active effort to acknowledge your successes. The lie that you can't or you won't or you are not good enough, will always overshadow your success. Because you continue to dwell in your lie, are distracted from reality and will never recognize your success. Being blind to your success, in your mind, reinforces the mindset that made you blind in the first place.

What is your personal lie? How do you deal with it? Share your story below!